“The
greater part of human pain is unnecessary. It is self-created as long
as the unobserved mind runs your life.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
Thoughts
are like trains passing through your mind. You can either let the
train go by, silently watching it flow through, or you can jump on
the train of thought, allowing it to bring you to a destination. Some
trains go to happy places: warm memories, future dreams, gratitude,
present surroundings. Others go to places of misery: regret, worry,
resentment, complaints. Be aware of what train you jump on. When you
pay attention to trains of thought, they grow stronger and come more
often. Begin to be aware of how your thoughts affect your moods. Ask
yourself, “Where is this train going?” Then you can either stay
on it or jump off!
The
optimal goal is not to allow ourselves to indulge in trains of
thought that lead to misery and suffering. But since this takes time
to master, most of us will occasionally find ourselves on a
self-destructing train of thought. To maintain peace of mind, we must
learn how to jump from negative trains to happy trains.
There are
many ways to change your train of thought. One of the easiest is to
bring your awareness back to the present moment. Use the ABCs of
redirecting attention. A- Awareness B- Breathe C- Choose. Take one or two slow, deep breaths. Pay
attention to your surroundings; concentrate on feeling your body
sensations, sights, sounds, and smells. When you are fully present,
your mind will not be thinking about past trauma, today’s
complaints, or tomorrow’s worries. You will be in the now, fully
aware and free to experience life outside your head until you choose to jump
onto a more pleasant train of thought. Practice being aware of what
train you are riding, and jump trains as necessary. The more you
practice, the easier it will be, until one day it will be second
nature. The less attention you pay to the negative trains of thought,
the less often they will come to mind and the quicker they will pass
through, eventually not coming much at all.
Lesson:
By
redirecting your attention, you have the ability to jump off negative
trains of thought.
Exercise:
Practice
jumping trains of thought.
When you
become aware that you are riding on a negative train of thought, jump
off. Practice bringing your awareness back to the present moment.
Take a slow, deep breath. Engage in the sensory input around you.
Stay present as long as possible. Engage in your life as it is
unfolding before you. Become an active participant in your
surroundings. Eventually, pick a happier train of thought to ride.
Choose trains like gratitude, future dreams, or compassion.
Be patient with yourself during this training phase. It’s been a lifetime
riding on the same unhappy trains over and over. It will take some
time to lay new train tracks. Any amount of effort you give this
exercise will pay off as it will raise your awareness and hone your ability to focus your attention at will.
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