“Many times when we take the focus off of ourselves and work to help others, our own problems shrink in size.” ~ Angie Hoover Lawson
Being of
service to others is one of the most powerful techniques to raise
your spirits. When we are helping others, it takes the focus off our
own problems while building a sense of self-worth. It also arouses
feelings of interconnection and love. Since love is the master from
which all positive emotions spring forth, it will trump all negative
emotions. If you feel awful and don’t know what else to do, after
you pray for peace of mind, go help someone. You will feel like you
make a difference. It will remind you that what you do matters. At
the same time, it will refocus your attention away from your own
personal problems. Serving others always allows us to build and
strengthen our bonds of interconnection.
I remember
the night I learned of my daughter’s death. I was emotionally
stunned and just sat looking out the front window all night. As
morning came, I noticed the man across the street come outside to
pick up his garbage, which had been spread all over the place by some
animals overnight. Without thought, I went outside and started
helping him pick up the garbage. We didn’t speak, and he had no
knowledge of what I was going through. When we were done, he said,
“Thanks.” and went back inside. It was those three or four
minutes, picking up garbage, that were the most peaceful moments of
that day. Acting in service, even in one of my darkest moments,
helped me feel at peace for a few minutes. So yes, service will not
only help others, it will help yourself too.
Lesson:
Being
of service to others is one of the most powerful techniques to raise
your spirits.
Exercise:
Do you
feel overwhelmed with your own problems? Or feel like you’re in a
funk? Offer to help someone in need. Become aware of when people
could use some help. There are so many opportunities to be of
service. It can be as simple as giving someone a ride to the store or
offering to do yard work for the old widow next door. Even just
bringing someone a warm meal or a plate of cookies can make his or
her whole day brighter. When we pay attention to the needs of others,
we’re not only helping them, we are helping ourselves in the
process. It opens our heart, which allows us to feel more love. An
open heart is a healthier and happier heart.
Lift the
spirits of two people. Give someone a helping hand today! If enough
people make a habit of helping others, it will be a kinder world. It
starts with you.
