Are you perfect? Most of us would answer "No" to this question, being all too aware of our personal faults. Yet, this type of self judgement, of not quite being good enough can lead to low self esteem. When we think of an idealized self, we might imagine being someone with immense wisdom, compassion, and inner peace. Of course most of us would fall short of this type of comparison. But it isn't quite fair to ourselves to make this type of comparison in the first place. Look at a baby. They are perfect, even though they lack knowledge and understanding. They are perfect even though they have so much more to learn. They are perfect in the stage of growth they are in at the time. As adults, we sometimes lose track of this inner perfection of being human. We all have room to grow. We all still make mistakes, fall down sometimes, and sometimes don't even understand why. Today, believe that you are perfect just as you are, while knowing that you have the ability to grow into a new definition of perfection tomorrow. Stop comparing yourself to others, or to your idealized self, and embrace your innate human perfection.
Accepting and loving yourself is an important part of being happy. Ponder these thoughts the next time you are feeling down on yourself.
Laura Barrette Shannon